My end of the year post is early for a reason, today seemed like a good day to write one.

2013 is almost a memory and with that memory comes one of the hardest years of my life personally and one of the best years of my life physically. The two are not independent of each other, they are forever twisted up in each other as one played off of the other.

This year brought about many changes in my life, most of them much too personal to list, but change is stress. I deal with stress by killing myself in the gym much like a cutter slices their skin open to numb the emotional trauma they go through. Its my “healthy” way to deal and it brought me to a better place physically while masking the deeper issues. Whether or not that is the best way to do it, I don’t know, but that is my therapy and it always will be.

I am not a perfect man, I have let people down. I have caused some people emotional pain and I have received the same treatment myself. I am passionate to a fault and that passion allows me to go full speed ahead at the expense of myself at times. I am all or nothing and to be honest I don’t know another way to be.

This year I released my e-book and it was well-received and many people still use it. For that I am grateful. Its never part of my business plan to become rich off of internet sales, I prefer in-the-trenches, yelling with my clients, working as a coach should be working and not peddling my services to the highest bidder for a weekend. I am very defiantly old school in my approach to this business and I would sooner make money slowly rather than oversaturate myself to the point of annoyance. That’s just me and that is how I approached my business model in 2013.

I have a small, loyal and hard working client base both on and offline. Some of them have been with me for well over a year and are still seeing progress. I can’t thank them enough for trusting me with their training. As hard-ass as I can be at times is as supportive I am towards my clients. I could care less about my own accomplishments anymore when compared to theirs. Sure, I like progressing and I will keep doing it but when I get a text or an email from one of them and I see a new PR or a new weight loss milestone, I am extremely happy for them. A trainer is only as good as his clients, period. You can do all you can to give them the tools, but they have to use them and I am thankful that every single one of them is using those tools to the best of their abilities.

I am not the best trainer, and I am not the best coach. I don’t care about being the best. The best is subjective. The best is whoever fits that person’s needs at that time, not a website review, not a testimonial and not the coaches’ numbers on a platform. Coaching is giving, its helping, its setting aside your own personal bias to better the person who pays you. Its listening to them, its knowing what they need to keep improving and its being a friend. They aren’t a paycheck, they are part of your life.

This year has made me a different person in some ways and I am not sure what 2014 will bring to the table, but there is only one way to find out. I look forward to 2014 with the memory that 2013 was quite a volatile year. That volatility was chaotic at times and amazing at others, but there is nothing preventing me from building on that, being a better person, being a better trainer and staying true to who I am.

Thank you for being a part of this year, and I hope I can continue to do the best I can to give you the best of what I am as a coach.


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